do bloggers lead perfect lives?

July 1, 2013

The answer to that is no.

I feel as though it’d be wrong to make you guys think that my life is all about beaches, farmer’s market-sourced dinners, parties, friends and domestic bliss with a new puppy. Yes, those things are a part of my life, but there’s also a lot of less fun stuff involved. Actually, some of the stuff is downright frustrating, miserable and boring.

I don’t like to air my dirty laundry here; I like to use this space to focus on the positive. But for argument’s sake — and to prove that no, my life is far from perfect — here’s a random smattering of less than happy moments as of late. I think it’s important to be honest:

— On Saturday morning, I had a near meltdown while walking Teddy by myself. I’m not sure if it was the teething, the heat wave or his general puppy-ness, but boy was not wanting to walk properly. (And it’s been happening a lot lately.) Instead, he wanted to chew the leash and surprise me with multiple bites on my butt and the back of my thighs. (That’s happening a lot lately, too.) The only way I could control him was by carrying him home two blocks — not an easy feat given how much he’s grown recently — and fighting tears. I know it’ll get better — I know — but sometimes it’s just hard and I want to vent, mmkay?

— I had a couple days last week where I wondered, “What the hell am I doing with my life career-wise? Are these series of freelance gigs really what I want?” Jury’s still out on that one.

— Sometimes I love San Diego, sometimes I don’t.

— I’ve met some cool people here, but I’m still struggling to make new friends. Working from home makes it 10 times harder.

— Speaking of, working from home hasn’t been an easy adjustment. The couch, kitchen and Target runs are way too distracting.

— Eaman is working hard on a business idea, and I’m beginning to realize what it’s like to date a start-up guy.

— I knew raising a puppy would be hard, but I didn’t know it’d be this hard. Now that Eaman’s work has picked up, I’m taking care of Teddy most of the time, and holy cow, I’m exhausted every day and don’t have time for much else. I’m in awe of people that have a puppy and a life. Teddy has too much energy to be left to his own devices around the apartment while we work and requires two eyes watching him at all times. (We crate him while we work and eat.)

— I want to start a hobby (like painting or drawing), buy a bike and furnish our balcony, but money is tight. (OK, I’m just whining now.)

OK that’s enough. I do know that there’s also a lot of good stuff happening in life, too. Sometimes I read through old blog posts to remind myself of that. (Watching my condensed monthly video recaps is like an IV of happiness to my veins.) At the same time, I want to be up front with you. Sometimes you stop and wonder what the hell you’re doing with your life, you question whether you made the right decisions and you ask yourself who you really want to be when given a blank slate. Good, healthy, important questions. I won’t bore you with these musings always, but I do like to keep it real sometimes.

Thanks for listening. Back to the positive on Wednesday!

10 thoughts on “do bloggers lead perfect lives?

  1. Kate

    Oh how I could trade stories with you! You’re definitely not the only blogger/writer/freelancer out there who feels like this! And what you said about Teddy is why my husband and I have yet to get a dog: I’d be the one taking care of him all the time. Chin up :)

    1. Archana Post author

      So glad I’m not alone out there in the freelancer abyss. As for the dog, I know plenty of people who raise dogs by themselves, but it’s totally perplexing how they do it. I personally need help. But if you’re itching for a dog now, I hear that if you get an older dog (probably older than 1), he/she will be a LOT less work. Puppyhood is the hardest stage!

  2. Melinda's Musings

    Before I started a blog I always used to compare myself to bloggers who seemed to have perfect lives – now I feel as though I’m the one projecting that “perfect” ideal! It’s a great idea to have a post like this once in a while, to show readers there’s a real person with real daily problems or imperfections behind the face of the blog.

    1. Archana Post author

      I totally agree! I used to compare myself a lot and sometimes even now — though I very well know what the real deal is — I get caught in the comparison trap. I think it’s good to be honest every once in a while. We’re all real people with real day-to-day problems, and readers should know that, just like you say!

  3. Ashley

    Just came across your blog and it’s such a refreshing read! As someone who also works from home I completely understand where you’re coming from. There are tons of easy distractions and it can definitely be hard to meet new people. One of my good friends just moved there and she raves about San Diego!

    1. Archana Post author

      Thanks, Ashley! So happy to hear you understand what I’m talking about. Working from home can be such a blessing a curse. Thanks for reading! Glad you stumbled over this way :)

  4. Kavita

    Hang in there! I agree though – working from home sounds a lot better in theory than the reality, which involves spending a lot of time all alone in front of a computer. But, on the positive side, it is nice not to commute and to “go to work” in yoga pants (at least for me :-))!

    1. Archana Post author

      Thanks, Kavita! Glad you can relate. It’s definitely a blessing a curse. The blessing is never-ending snacks and a lax dress code :)

  5. BriGeeski

    Hang in there girl! You are doing amazing things. I could have written this exact post. I remember the puppy days too. I remember a friend of mine picked me up to go out one time and I started crying because I didn’t realize how hard having a puppy would be. Now I have all these same sort of struggles taking care of my toddler while working from home. We really need to go grab a cup of coffee soon and catch up!


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