I was recently chatting with my friend about what I had been up to. And because I don’t filter — I just don’t see the point in saying, “Everything’s great!” when it’s not — I launched into a diatribe about frustrations, lack of sleep, self-doubt and a general state of stress. (The transition to the freelance, self-employed lifestyle hasn’t been an easy one.)
And she said something kind of brilliant.
To paraphrase: “Everyone has a point in their lives when they have to struggle, put in extra hours, fight harder and make sacrifices for that thing they really want.”
Her takeaway on life is stupidly simple and doesn’t wipe my worries away, but it does show me a light at the end of the tunnel. When she said it, I stopped for a second to think about how I must be living in that phase right now. For the first time in my life, I feel really strongly about the career and lifestyle I want, and fortunately and unfortunately I have to fight for it. It means sacrifices and anxieties I’ve never previously dealt with and day-to-day disarray I’m not used to. As Phoebe from Friends would say, things are kind of “floopy” right now. There’s also the question of how many phases each of us will go through, but let’s no worry about that right now.
I’d love to know: Do you agree with her philosophy? Have you had you gone through your “tough” phase yet?