Comments on: why moving to another state can be harder than traveling the world

By: Archana

Archana — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 00:26:14 +0000

Thanks, Amy! I felt completely crazy these past four weeks, but I’m starting to find my groove…and loving it. It just feels wrong to be negative in this sunny place!

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 04:03:27 +0000

congrats on all these exciting new things!! looks like you’re doing an amazing job getting settled, and i’m loving following all the new places you guys are exploring!

By: Archana

Archana — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 22:49:04 +0000

Oh girl, I know all about coping with dessert! And I don’t think it’s a coincidence that as soon as I started feeling better, I finally went for a run and put down the Hershey Kisses! It’s all still a work in progress, but I’m lucky to have such travel-minded friends who get what I’m saying. Looking forward to seeing you guys here sometime soon via Pasadena.

By: Archana

Archana — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 22:47:15 +0000

Even though Hawaii was a short-term stay for me, I felt a little of that there, too. I felt odd complaining because it’s paradise, like you said, so I’d bottle it up, and we all know that’s a great idea! It’s so true that when you become a different person, you can never really “go home again.” That said, I’m pretty excited for the changes that’ve happened, and I’m sure you can say that about yourself as well. Thanks for making me feeling less crazy/alone! I’ll see you here soon :)

By: Archana

Archana — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 22:44:59 +0000

I honestly surprised myself! I definitely thought it would take me a year to feel comfortable. I mean, I’m not totally there yet. I’m still a little wobbly, but I feel like I’ve finally come up for air. And I’m really excited for exactly what you mentioned — to build a new network in a new city on my own. Thanks for the support!

By: Godhuli

Godhuli — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 22:35:48 +0000

You’re lucky that things are beginning to click after one month! It usually takes the six-month mark for me to find my groove, my people, my places. It takes time to create a new life, but it feels so incredible to build an entirely new network in a brand new city on your own :)

By: Runjini

Runjini — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:08:00 +0000

Hawaii has been much harder than I expected. I miss SF and the Bay a lot. And I’m in paradise, so I’m not allowed to complain (which I completely understand). Plus, I actually do have friends and family here! I have no idea how people move to places without networks. If I think too much about what our parents must have faced, I get so overwhelmingly depressed.

For me, it hit me that my life in SF as I knew it is totally over. I could go back, but it will always be different because I’m different now. That’s life, but I’m the opposite of you in that I’m not adventurous and am a creature of habit. Realizing what was familiar is gone is scary to me.

I guess all I can say is – you’re not alone. But you made it to your dream/goal city and have done a LOT in four weeks. I bet it takes more than four months for most people. So you should be proud!

And you’ll have a visitor in me soon enough, so there’s that too. :-)

By: Kavita

Kavita — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:31:54 +0000

Totally know how you feel! I’ve experienced all of these feelings with our move to Delhi. For a while, I was coping by eating a chocolate croissant every day from our favorite bakery because it reminded me of home :-) But I’m sure you’ll settle in soon! And I love your posts on Southern California. I feel like visiting soon! :-)